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Let It Be


Let It Be: When Grief Unravels Your Thought Garden

by Laura Jenkins

The waves of grief are exhausting. They leave us worn out, weary, and exhausted, and they often cause us to think things like: “Why am I still feeling like this?” “What’s wrong with me?” “When will the pain stop?” “I must be crazy. Everyone else seems fine.” Grief is harsh and undoing. Of course it is––you lost someone you love! Life has been turned completely upside down and inside out. There is no getting over grief, but there is a way through. We all need a way through. We need to know there is hope and there is help. The way through starts with letting your grief be. Let it be whatever it is. We don’t have to try to change it; instead we can feel it, express it, and learn to walk alongside of it. We can learn the difficult emotions of grief aren’t here to harm us but to connect us. They connect us to the one we love and lost, connect us to our Savior, and connect us to ourselves.

Connection in grief brings hope, and there is nothing needed more in the waves of grief than hope. Grief and hope can coexist as we lean into our grief with our Savior by our side. Jesus’ love for you is incredibly compassionate, and we can show compassion to ourselves as we learn to live alongside our grief. We can learn how to carry what cannot be fixed this side of Heaven and bear witness to our losses, knowing our Savior does too.We are never alone––the One within us and around us knows the weight of grief and helps us carry the heaviest parts.



As I began to place my identity back in the one who created me I started to notice my thoughts shift. Instead of thinking negative thoughts of myself, I started to believe the wonderful truth that I am good because He is good. Instead of looking at my imperfections in the mirror, I would look at myself and say “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Constantly correcting my thoughts to God’s truths helped me tremendously when it came to finding my identity in him, and replacing Satan’s lies with bible verses allowed me to find joy that went beyond my circumstances.


Mt. Juliet, TN

Laura, I just finished reading your book, and wow. It’s incredible. I’ve told all my friends to get it because I think it’s amazing. I’ve read it every day for the past 18 days and I really feel like I have grown so much from it. I really needed to hear all the words you wrote and to be directed to all the verses in the chapters and I know I grew from the journaling and received such peace from the meditation. I just want to thank you for writing it because it is so special to my life now and has really helped me in huge ways the past couple of weeks. Thank you so much for writing it, I really look up to you!


College Student

The Thought Garden in my opinion is one of the best adult devotional workbooks available. Laura not only presents and explains a much-needed topic in today’s world but lends her expertise in mitigating negative thinking and suggesting mindfulness techniques that are data-driven and psychologically and emotionally important.  I appreciate how she fluidly takes traditions like breathing exercises and meditation, which aren’t widely promoted in Christianity, and teaches the reader how to seek God in moments of solitude and study and how these techniques benefit the mind, body, and soul.  It’s unlike any other devotional or workbook I’ve ever read before.

Rachel P.

Murfreesboro, TN